There are things I cannot change and things I can. Focusing on what I can change gives me power, while focusing on what I cannot change weakens me and fills me with unnecessary worry. It’s hard to shift this focus, but it can be done, little by little, until it becomes easier, then one day, it feels natural.
The Pressure to Always Be Productive
I used to feel that I had to always be productive, constantly doing something that would show results. I couldn’t sit still; I had to be doing something all the time. I have since learned that it’s okay to slow down. It’s okay to not be productive. There is healing in rest and joy in stillness. I can find energy in just being. It’s hard to accept because this need to constantly be productive stems from a false belief that I am not enough—that I have to prove my worth tangibly, by having something to show for it. These are false beliefs that I am unlearning.
Embracing the Importance of Rest
I am learning to put my energy where it’s needed and when it’s needed, and to rest as well. I am learning that rest is as important as work. If I am constantly moving and never resting, I will burn out. And I have burned out.
I burned out as a mother, a wife, a friend, and a daughter. I burned out with work, as an artist, a writer, and a creator. I burned out with cooking, cleaning, and just living each day. I was drained and felt internally bruised.
Forced to Slow Down
During the COVID-19 pandemic, I was forced to slow down and take an internal inventory of all my beliefs and self-worth. This period of reflection made me confront the toxic dynamics in my life, including my abusive marriage. The constant hustle of daily life had allowed me to ignore the reality of my situation, but the pandemic forced me to face it head-on.
As I focused on what I could change and let go of what I could not, I found the strength to break free from my abusive relationship. This led to my divorce and the beginning of my recovery journey. It was an incredibly difficult time, but slowing down gave me the clarity and courage I needed to make this life-altering decision.
Now, I am freer. I am learning to rest and relax. I find joy in peace, something I did not even know I could have. I felt like peace was a prelude to chaos because that was the way things had been since I was young. Being surrounded by toxic and abusive people made it impossible to find peace.
Embracing Peace
Now I have let those people go. They are no longer a primary part of my life. With them gone, I have peace for the first time in my 30+ years of revolving around the sun. It is strange and foreign, and it took months to realize that the reason I still felt on edge was the false belief that peace would lead to chaos—that something was just lurking around the corner to jump out and verbally assault me.
I have started to tell myself, “Peace is good. I love peace. I find joy in peace. I welcome peace. Peace is a happy part of my life. Peace is welcomed here.” These mantras help me, especially if I start to feel a little anxious during down-time.
The Healing Power of Rest
This new mindset has also opened the door to resting for the first time in my life. Whenever I checked in with my body or my inner knowing, I felt this strong urge to just rest. Healing could be found in the quiet, in the rest, in the nothingness.
While I rested and recharged, I found my creative spark. I found energy that I thought was gone. I found joy for projects, new and old, that had burned out. In the rest and down-time, I felt renewal and hope.
Embracing the Unknown
I am stepping out in faith, into the unknown, and while it is scary, it is also exciting. There is newness on the other side and success. I don’t have to fear success. I will not lose my success. I will thrive and grow and step into an abundant life. I will overflow with blessings in joy, wealth, love, and health.
I truly believe this, and each day I find a door open or a path laid out that leads me a step closer to my dreams. Each day I am filled with more hope.
Balancing Work and Rest
So, I am learning to balance work and rest. I am learning to find my groove and joy. I am learning, and someday I will look back and be so grateful for all the steps I took to get here.
Key Strategies for Balancing Work and Rest
- Prioritize Self-Care: Schedule time for self-care activities such as reading, meditating, or taking a walk. Self-care is not selfish; it’s essential for maintaining your well-being.
- Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal time. Communicate these boundaries to family, friends, and colleagues to ensure they respect your need for rest.
- Practice Mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine. This could be as simple as taking a few deep breaths during a busy day or setting aside time for meditation.
- Delegate Tasks: Learn to delegate tasks at work and home. You don’t have to do everything yourself. Trust others to help and lighten your load.
- Create a Restful Environment: Designate a space in your home for relaxation. This could be a cozy corner with a comfortable chair and soft lighting where you can unwind.
Conclusion
Balancing work and rest is an ongoing journey. By recognizing the importance of rest and intentionally incorporating it into your life, you can break the cycle of constant productivity and find joy in both your work and personal life. Remember, it’s okay to rest. It’s okay to slow down. Embrace the healing power of stillness and find strength in the quiet moments. You are enough, just as you are.